It is difficult to think about being thankful in a divisive and vicious world. A few months ago we experienced a tsunami where $16.7 billion was spent on campaign ads in the 2022 US elections. Over half of that was negative messages meant to increase anger, paranoia, suspicions. Goal achieved. The after effects will last for months, maybe years. They are part of the American political psyche. No wonder politics is a trigger topic to be avoided at the workplace and definitely off limits during a family get together. 

But rather than avoid, shouldn’t we fix the root of the problem? Gatherings should be a time of healing. A time to be grateful for the blessings bestowed on us, whether meager or many. Being resentful for what another has or has not, re-opening past wounds, blaming others for our troubles doesn’t get us to gratitude.  That is why “Thank you” and “I forgive you” belong together. 

You want a healthy workplace? Find ways to forgive and reconcile. A healthy family requires the same. Focus on forgiveness and think of these things: what is pure, commendable, admirable, praiseworthy. Someone sacrificed for us before us. Reflect on the gifts, not the grudge. Be grateful.

I am struck by the absence of gratitude at the crucifixion of Jesus. He was sent to redeem and rescue. In every gospel version of the crucifixion, however, he was condemned by the crowds, tortured intensely, and insulted repeatedly. Even while hanging from the cross, in his final moments before death, one of the criminals mocked Him. But not a single word of thanks is recorded. Not one. From anyone. 

Jesus did not say “what do I have to do to get a ‘thanks’ from you people?” Instead, Jesus spoke of forgiveness. 

There is a lesson here. 

We should speak of forgiveness and thanks together. Not in silence. Out loud. This is the courage of kindness. As Paul reminds us: 

“Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry … Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen … Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:26-32.

“Thank you” will be easily said when we release our own bitterness. Give forgiveness, and give thanks. And let the healing begin. 

© Copyright Tim Murphy 2022